A Letter from Khosi
by zohefilmsIt was Monday morning and I woke up to prepare my kids for school, when I noticed that Busi was still sleeping. So I went outside to Bongiwe’s room to wake her up. To my surprise and disgust, Busi had slept in the same room with Bongi- her boyfriend- and Lugelo, Bongi’s daughter.
The thing about Bongi’s boyfriend is that he is a convicted rapist. He was just released from a 15 year jail sentence, for gang raping a girl from our neighbourhood years ago. And I was against the affair, but also knew that I can’t tell her how to lead her life. But, again I thought it was not fair that Lerato has to see the guy all over again.
I humbly asked my sister to go meet with her lover some place not at home, and we had a fight. After sometime I asked her not to sleep in the same room with her daugther and the guy, and we had a fight again. Then I decided to take a back seat. After all it’s her life and her daughters.
Oh my god! I really lost it when I walked in the room to find Busi and the boyfriend. I couldn’t even control my anger. We had a heated argument that turned physical. Truly speaking, I hate the fact that I was born into this family.
My mom and gran believe that I am wrong and Bongi is right. They think this guy learned his lesson and he won’t do it again. But I say a leopard wont change it’s spot. As for Bongi, what is she teaching her young sister? How can she sleep in the same room with her boyfriend and Busi? As for my parents, why cant they separate wrong from right? In our culture it’s wrong, immoral and disrespecting for a boy to sleep in a girl’s home. I don’t understand how a woman can date a man who has no regard for another woman’s feelings. A man who violated, humiliated another woman’s rights. A man who took away something special and unique from this girl, something that he can’t take back. Not even a jail sentence can erase that awful day.
How can my sister fall in love with this animal? How does she really feel when she makes love to an ex-rapist? How can she bring this man in our lives for god’s sake? We also have baby girls. Isn’t there a chance that one day the devil can start whispering to him? I don’t want to be there when something like that happens.
December 27th, 2009 at 2:11 am
I personally believe that everyone deserves a second chance but this is one ordeal that no woman can ever heal fromor overcome (being raped). i think it is also too soon for the guy to be dating again and the worst part of this is seeing that the victim of this guys cruelty is not even far from where you leave and seeing him again must be opening old wounds. but at the end of the day your sister has the final say and she needs to make the best decision and not just for her but for the kids as well. i hope things get better for all of you at home.